Again and again I am reminded of the importance of vision.
Today I was feeling tired, after a very busy three days of back-to-school, back-to-work, back-to-routine. I was frustrated because I hadn’t done all the things during the holiday that I thought I would do, and so I left myself too much to do this week. Again. Sigh.
Just then, I looked over my kitchen to The Pile, on top of which I had temporarily placed my vision poster for 2013. And I instantly felt my spirits lift, my energy shift, and my heart open. I carried my vision poster with me to my office, placed it where it belongs, above my desk, and sat right down at my computer and started working.
In the moment I saw the poster, and recognized the energy shift, I felt the power of that vision. I know where I’m going. I know why I’m here. And I know I’m moving closer, year by year, day by day, minute by minute, to the full expression of me in the world.
I want to emphasize the importance of small steps. This Bill Gates quote is profound:
“Most people overestimate what they can do in one year, and underestimate what they can do in ten years.” ~ Bill Gates
It reminds us that when we think we’re not going fast enough, we may actually be trucking right along in the right direction.
In moments of overwhelm, stress, frustration, or disappointment, referring to your vision takes practice. Today, I was lucky that my poster just happened to be there. If it hadn’t been, I might still be sitting in my kitchen, dolefully eating up the contents of my Christmas stocking. But the reminder was powerful. Next time I feel that way, my vision will be that much closer, the pattern will be that much easier to repeat.
Each time you interrupt negative thoughts or feelings with your positive, inspiring vision, you come one step closer to establishing a thought-habit and thought-pattern.
About to yell at kids for yelling at each other: INTERRUPT “I am a peaceful, encouraging parent!”
About to lose it trying to get out the door without everybody having full-on meltdowns: INTERRUPT “I have a sense of humour in difficult moments!”
About to throw out all the toys not put away: INTERRUPT “I am at peace in chaos!”
See how it works? The examples above use language, but visual imagery is also very powerful.
About to use “that tone”: INTERRUPT Envision (and hear the voice of) a parent you know who has a calm voice no matter what happens.
About to hit your toddler: INTERRUPT Envision the teenager that toddler will become hugging you and thanking you for being a gentle, loving parent, no matter what.
I want to encourage you to take tiny steps, trust in yourself, trust in your vision, and look forward, not backward. Your vision is achievable!!
In honour of the New Year (Here we go!! Again!! Another chance!) I’d love to offer you my “Peace of Mind Parenting Inventory” at no cost. It will help you to discover what matters most to you in parenting, who and how you want to be with your children, and it will guide you to create a powerful parenting vision for yourself. Just reply to this email to request it, and I will send it to you with love!