Toddler tantrum

With children of every age, the key to supporting them through their emotions is to be able to identify when the emotion has processed enough that the child can move on.

To identify when the child is ready to move on, first allow the feeling in the first place (reflect, reflect, reflect).

Then, listen for tone to change – when the child’s expression shifts from a heartfelt cry to an “I’m stuck in this and need help out” sort of a whine, you know that you can stop reflecting and start helping your child to move on. 

For a young child, this usually means being distracted by something else (and forgetting about the little truck), and for an older child it may be just letting it go, or it may be getting started thinking on solving the problem.

And here it is! The best toddler distraction tool EVER…. is to describe something that interests the child in detail, because children around this age are fascinated by interesting language: “Look at the puppy’s fluffy black tail! It is waving back and forth! And his nose is all shiny and wet! Look, he is coming over here to lick you with his pink tongue…Let’s give him gentle touches by his soft ears.”

In general, for toddlers, choices, descriptions, and invitations to action are usually effective distractions.

Please comment below and share about your favourite toddler distraction tool, or best toddler distraction story! We’d love to hear.

And if you need more help with your particular toddler, let’s connect. If you’ve got a toddler, this is a great time to get yourself on track to being the parent you really want to be. I’d love to help! Call me to see if coaching might be a fit for you…. 403-607-1463…or take a look at my coaching packages here.