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Helping Your Child Through Transition

  Ever since my daughter was small, she has said to me, “We’re NEVER going to move, right, mom?” and I have answered, “I will never make the decision to move without including you in that decision.” When the time came and I first brought up the idea of moving to my daughter, I was absolutely prepared…

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How Do I Talk to My Daughter About Make-Up?

I remember when I was in the classroom with a bunch of 9-year-old girls who were hotly debating the topic of make-up and their parents’ attitudes towards it. When they asked me “Why do women wear make-up?” I answered, from the bottom of my soul, “Because it’s fun!” Now, I think there’s much more to…

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The Myth of Nipping it in the Bud

You know that feeling of panic that shows up when your child does certain things? It’s that feeling that shouts at you, “You need to nip that in the bud!!” or “Don’t let him get away with that!” ​ When your little one lies, you envision her in jail, the next Martha Stewart. When your three-year-old hits,…

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Discipline Without Guilt??!! Really? How Does That Work?

Discipline is the part of parenting that parents hate most. If you read my last blog post, about how much control you “should” have over your child, you’ll see the first reason why parents hate discipline so much – it’s because they don’t have clarity around what they do have control over, and what they don’t. But…

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How Much Control Should You Have Over Your Child?

  In the Big Picture Parenting class today, we had a great conversation about control. The question goes something like this: “How do I make sure my child is doing or not doing Certain Important Things while still respecting their autonomy and independence?   It’s a darn good question, because at the end of the…

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Does Your Child Push Your Buttons?

Chances are, your child is an expert at pushing your buttons. Here’s how to short circuit the button, so that you can stay in that loving Zen place and stay connected, instead of pushing the disconnection even further along. If you’ve been reading my blog at all, you know that connection is big for me.…

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Why We Get Mad at Our Kids (& How to Stop)

Okay, I’m just going to blurt it out. The bottom line is, we get mad at our kids because we think they shouldn’t be doing what they’re doing, and because we think that, if they are doing what they are doing, it means that we are bad parents. Here’s how it works: The child doesn’t…

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